Therapy that goes
deep enough
to actually move.
A lot of couples have talked. What they haven't done is talk in a way that reaches the thing underneath the argument — the fear, the need, the unspoken story. That's what the work is for.
The questions couples bring — and what I actually do with them
Most couples arrive with a presenting problem: “we keep having the same fight,” “we've lost intimacy,” “I don't know if I still love them.” These are real, and they matter. But the presenting problem is rarely the whole story.
What's underneath it — the patterns, the attachment fears, the cultural framings of what love is supposed to look like — is where the actual work lives. My job is to create a space where both partners can begin to see that layer, and to shift within it.
Will you take sides?
No. My client is the relationship — not either individual. Both of you need to feel genuinely heard, not managed. I work hard to maintain active, real neutrality — not just a claim to it.
Do I have to explain my culture or identity?
No. I work with intercultural and LGBTQ+ couples because I understand those dynamics from the inside, not just the literature. You won’t spend session time educating me.
How long does therapy take?
There’s no fixed programme. Some couples need 8–10 sessions to address a specific issue. Others work with me for a year or more. We check in regularly on what’s useful and when it makes sense to stop.
Do both partners need to come?
For couples therapy, yes — both partners attend together. Occasionally I may suggest brief individual sessions as part of the work, but the core sessions are joint.
Is there homework?
Sometimes. Depending on what we’re working on, I may suggest things to try between sessions. Nothing arbitrary — always connected to the work.
What if we’re considering separation?
You don’t need to have decided anything to start. Some couples come still invested; others are genuinely unsure. Both are valid starting points. Therapy can help with the decision as much as with the repair.
Evidence-based approaches,
chosen for fit — not fashion
No single model works for every couple. I draw on several evidence-based frameworks, combining them based on what I'm seeing in the room — the couple's attachment patterns, cultural context, the nature of the conflict, and what stage of the work we're in.
What it does
EFT works at the level of attachment — the deep emotional bond between partners, and the cycles of pursuit and withdrawal that form when that bond feels threatened. The goal is to shift how partners reach for each other.
Why I use it
EFT has the strongest evidence base of any couples therapy model. Particularly powerful for intercultural couples, where the attachment cycle is often complicated by different cultural scripts for vulnerability.
What it does
Developed from 40 years of research, the Gottman Method provides concrete tools for managing conflict, building friendship and intimacy, and creating shared meaning. Particularly good at naming specific patterns couples can recognise in their own dynamic.
Why I use it
Some couples need insight but also something more concrete. Gottman provides that. It also has specific research on same-sex couples, making it more applicable to LGBTQ+ partnerships than models developed on heterosexual samples only.
What it does
Looks at the relationship not just between two individuals, but between those individuals and the larger systems around them — families of origin, cultures, communities, structural pressures. Asks: what is this pattern a response to?
Why I use it
This is where intercultural and LGBTQ+ work particularly needs a systemic lens. A couple’s conflict about money or family almost always has a cultural story inside it. Systemic work makes that visible without pathologising either partner.
What it does
Looks at the deeper patterns — the relational templates formed in early life, the unconscious processes that play out between partners, the ways that past relationships shape present ones. Asks what each person is re-enacting.
Why I use it
Some couples are stuck in patterns that have nothing to do with each other and everything to do with what they each brought into the relationship. For couples where early experience of loss or instability is clearly present, this lens is often essential.
What a session actually looks like
I don't run sessions off a script. But there's a structure to how I work, and it's worth knowing what to expect — especially if you've never been to couples therapy before.
Sessions are 60 minutes for an initial assessment and 50 minutes for ongoing work. Both partners are in the room throughout. I tend to work with what's live — what's happening between you in the session, not just what you report from the week.
I work in-person in London and online. Both are effective — the research on online couples therapy is genuinely positive.
Free 20-minute consultation
A call to hear what’s brought you here, answer your questions, and see whether this feels like a good fit. No obligation, no assessment.
Assessment & orientation
Understanding your relationship’s history, each person’s perspective, and what you’re both hoping for.
Pattern recognition & shift
Working with the live dynamic between you — what happens when it goes wrong, what’s underneath it, and what needs to change.
Regular check-ins on progress
Every 6–8 sessions, we pause to review: what’s changed, what’s still stuck, whether the approach needs adjusting.
On your terms
Therapy ends when it makes sense — not according to a programme. Your call.
Worth being honest about
I won’t referee
I’m not here to decide who’s right. If that’s what you’re looking for, this probably isn’t the right fit. What I can do is help both of you understand why you’re each so sure you’re right.
I won’t pretend culture doesn’t matter
Some therapists treat cultural difference as neutral background. I don’t. If how you were each taught to express love or handle conflict is part of what’s creating friction — we’re going to talk about it.
I won’t use therapy as a performance space
Some couples use sessions to perform for the therapist. I’ll gently redirect when that’s happening, because the work happens when something real is being said.
I won’t push you toward a particular outcome
Whether you stay together or separate is not something I have a view on. Both can be the right outcome. Therapy is for understanding — not for reaching a conclusion I’ve already decided on.
The logistics
In-person, London
Sessions in person at my London consulting room.
Central London
Online, UK-wide
Online sessions via Zoom. Research is clear that online couples therapy is effective — and it removes geography as a barrier.
Available across the UK
Fees
£80 per hour. If cost is a barrier, please reach out — I offer a limited number of sliding scale places based on income.
Sliding scale available